Most of us have heard this saying from a very young age. Whether it was the response to comfort the loss of a pet hamster no longer running the wheel or the first case of heartbreak, it’s these words that are most often spoken.

And while time does help, we all know now that it does not heal ALL wounds. I still remember the pain of losing my Grandmother almost 16 years ago and today on the 4th anniversary of my dad’s passing, yep – the pain’s still there.

It’s not as bad as it was on that beautiful, sunny day but it’s still there.  It’s there when we have family functions and birthday celebrations. It’s there when I see other people doing things around my mom’s house or when we talk about plans that need to be made.

But while time does not heal all wounds, it does take a lot of the sting away. It helps you eventually laugh at the memories as opposed to being sad all the time. Instead of wiping away tears of sadness when you look thru the photo albums, you sometimes have tears of laughter. Instead of remembering the challenging moments, time helps them fade into the background and brings to the front the good ones. You stop thinking about all the suffering the person may have gone thru and instead, remember when they were young, healthy and full of life.

You always miss the person and every single time you’re together as a family, there will always be that moment where you think to yourself (or say it out loud).. “I wish Dad were here to be part of this”. Sometimes I randomly have that thought when I do something as simple as step outside and see that it’s a beautiful day in the Carolinas or as I’m doing yard work.

Today will start as every other day starts… alarm goes off, time to get the kids ready for school and off to my office I will go. But when the clock strikes 9:00 am, I will pause and remember a life gone too soon and think of all the wonderful things that my dad WAS a part of. Then I will continue on with my day and cherish each moment a little bit more.

Make sure you take time to hug your kids a little bit harder and pick up the phone and call someone and tell them you love them. Call a truce to a senseless argument. Because remember the other saying – “life is short”.

We love you and miss you Don, Dad, Poppy…

Kristen

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Last updated by Kristen Daukas at 13 October, 2012.

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